Dating

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Joe S. McIlhaney, MD

Overview

About Dating

In dating, romantic relationship habits begin to form. Dating can change how people view commitment, boundaries, and expectations of sex. There are entire industries around matchmaking and online dating, but the end goal varies: casual sex, cohabitation, long-term relationships, and marriage. With the average age of marriage in the U.S. at 28-30 years old, the window of dating is lengthening and beginning earlier and earlier.

Research shows that choices made during the dating phase have a lasting impact on relationship health. The younger an individual engages in sexual intercourse, the more sexual partners they are likely to have prior to marriage. During this phase of relationships, intent and goals are critical to lasting fulfillment and stability.1

1Bush, Freda McKissic, and Joe S. McIlhaney. Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children. Chicago, Moody Publishers, 2008.

Where the
Research Leads

What You Can Do

Policy Makers

Support policies and programs that promote healthy relationship practices and public health initiatives that frame dating as a step toward stable marriages and families.

Educators

Use the K-12 Sex Education Standards to clearly define consent and instill behavioral standards for students to apply in a relationship.

Parents

Encourage open dialogue with your children. Prepare for a series of conversations to start discussing if your child is ready for dating.

Organizations

Provide environments where young adults can be taught the impact of their dating choices and importance of long-term goals for relationships.

Further Reading

7 Ways States Can Strengthen Marriage and Families
In 7 Ways States Can Strengthen Marriage and Families, authored by Katie MacLeod and published by the Institute for Family…
A Proposed Model for State Policy Initiatives to Strengthen Marriage
In A Proposed Model for State Policy Initiatives to Strengthen Marriage, authored by Alan J. Hawkins and published by the…
Cohabitation is Popular, But It’s Still No Replacement for Marriage
In Cohabitation is Popular, But It’s Still No Replacement for Marriage, authored by Rachel Sheffield and published by the Institute for Family…
Five Reasons Porn is Bad for Your Marriage
In Five Reasons Porn is Bad for Your Marriage, authored by Brian J. Willoughby and Jason S. Carroll and published…

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